Bringing Up Children Well

Bringing Up Children Well

Prue Leith has voiced her thoughts on parenting in the 21st century in this week’s Spectator.  She says “Modern children are, I think, indulged and both over- and under-protected. They are consulted about what they’d like to eat, what colour mug they’ll have their apple juice in. They are patiently negotiated with on the subject of bedtime or TV. Mostly they get their way.”

There is a growing body of evidence indicating that when parents don’t set expectations and boundaries for their children, and do things for them that the children should be learning to do for themselves, they are not helping, and may actually be causing harm.  The consequences can be children, and then adults, who tend to be self-centred, expect needs to be met immediately, and are unwilling to be held accountable for their actions.

Mother & daughter

Bringing up children well in our busy 21st century lives, in the full glare of social media, is challenging.

 

 

Learning about the Functional Fluency model can help us develop the skills needed to get a balance between effectively guiding and directing, and caring for our children.  Functional Fluency is a straightforward way of recognising and understanding what we are thinking and doing, and the choice we have over this.  It provides a practical framework for changing how we behave - how to use less energy on what doesn’t work, and more energy on what works well.

Family FunTIFF© is the international award winning, personal development tool, based on the Functional Fluency model.  Undertaking TIFF provides a unique, co-created profile that enhances self-awareness, and includes an action plan for positive change.

 

Through a greater understanding of ourselves and how our behaviour impacts on others, TIFF enables us to:

  • Build rewarding positive relationships with our children
  • Give warmth and affection with clear expectations and firm boundaries
  • Take extra enjoyment from being with our children
  • Understand what makes for effective parenting

Parents say:

“I learned to take time to enjoy treats and take pleasure in being with my children”  

“TIFF helped me realise that I am not here to be my children’s friend, I am their Mum, which is a relationship that comes with very special responsibilities and joys.”          

To find out more, please get in touch - info@functionalfluency.com                                                                        

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We use our blog to refect on how Functional Fluency and TIFF is being used, and how it can be developed further, across the broad spectrum of situations where building more effective relationships is valuable.

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